Home for The Holidays

17 Dec

December is a time when people traditionally travel “home” – or at least think about it – because a number of major religions have significant holidays during this month.

Christians rule with “Christmas” of course, which now gets its commercial launch pre-Halloween. But then, practically speaking, 33% of the world’s population and 82% of the United States population is considered “Christian” (includes: Protestant, Catholic, Mormon, Orthodox, and other, as well as non-denominational), so the country tends to revolve around Christmas as the major holiday with Hanukkah, Kwanza, Eid-ul-Fitr and Winter Solstice trailing behind.

Actually, I suspect that all of these celebrations have their roots in the Winter Solstice, which marks the moment in time when, according to the wisdom of my Grandmother’s people, The Principle People (T’saligi),  the Earth Mother “takes a breath” – and in that moment, sends out a tone that signals to all the vegetation of the planet a “wake up call” that begins the process of growth of shoots reaching towards the surface that will erupt in “the resurrection” of growth in the Spring.

Be that as it may, this is undoubtedly a time when families get together and attempt to function in good cheer. Of course normally “dysfunctional” families – and who’s isn’t these days in some way, shape or form – have a greater challenge. It’s a rare and blessed family that can honestly enjoy each other and embrace each member with acceptance and appreciation. It takes some practice, but it is definitely achievable.

“Holidays” also tend to be the time when family members choose to make significant announcements to the rest of the clan – like, “I’m getting married” ,”I’m getting a divorce” or “I’m Gay.”

If you have had any experience with the “I’m Gay” announcement – either as the announcer or the recipient, then I recommend the following post and resources from one of my other blogs, “MsQueer.”  (Well, yes, since I wrote it I would be a tad favorably prejudiced towards it… 🙂  )

It’s an Open Letter to Parents of Gay Teens, but it applies to all ages, and I’ve had positive feedback from both sides of the issue. Hope you enjoy.

See: http://msqueer.wordpress.com/2008/12/16/for-parents-of-gay-teens/

Holiday Greeting 3

-Deborah Adler

©2008 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

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