Looking For Love – Part 1

1 Feb

There’s a country-western song that was popular a number of years back by that title – “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places.” Although the writer was talking about a love interest, I find the words particularly appropriate lately in terms of self-acceptance.

I spent the better part of my youth and adulthood looking for approval. In school I was the consummate student, the over-achiever in extra-curricular activities – choirs, Girls Athletic Association, Girl Scouts, etc. I was always hungry for that acknowledgment from the teacher, my parents or my peers.

Some days it seems like that little girl is still ruling the day – with her eagerness to be praised for a job well done, when in fact there is no praise great enough that can befall a person who doesn’t know from the inside out that they are accomplished.

“The Ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear.”— Deepak Chopra

My spiritual mentor and Elder of 25 years, Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, has shared with us in so many different ways our uniqueness and the true nature of our Beings, as Children of God who grow up to be…What? God.

That might sound a little radical for some – but when we think about what DOES it mean – to be “made in the image of God?” God is understood as “Perfection,” and we are made in that image of perfection – so at what point do we dis-count the Truth of our Being and settle for less than a perfect life?

The ‘reality’ of what you are is always transcendence. Life in the Earth Mother is a gift from the Giver That Gives All Things. Your life is but a blink in the eye of time. You have been chosen by Creator to come here and deliver your message/purpose. To be chosen means you have been trusted and embraced with divine intention. – Pa’Ris’Ha *

Somewhere in the stillness we have to touch upon the Truth of our Being. We have to know from the inside out, that as we move through existence here on Earth, we have purpose and we are loved. Without that inner knowing, there can be no “outside” influence that will ever be able to convince us of the Truth. It’s got to come from within…

Key question is: Am I living my purpose? The answer to that can reveal a lot about why we might look outside ourselves for approval.

You know it in the gut when you’re “right on” about your life’s course, and you know it in the same place when you’re not.

Fortunately, being “off-course” isn’t fatal. It’s correctable. It just takes a decision.

There is nothing we can do to deserve Creator’s Love. We ARE loved by God-Creator-The Source. We just need to remember that.

Through faith, this trusting of one’s sacredness, we are free at last and can see forever. It is all simple and clear.  There is no path or process to find happiness.  Happiness is being truly ALIVE.  –Pa’Ris’Ha *

“Looking for love” is actually an illusion. We are loved – and We Are Love.

The “approval” we seek from outside ourselves is really self-acceptance which comes with embracing the reality of our existence here, and our ability to direct our own destiny.

“Human potential is the same for all. Your feeling, “I am of no value”, is wrong. Absolutely wrong. You are deceiving yourself. We all have the power of thought – so what are you lacking? If you have willpower, then you can change anything. It is usually said that you are your own master.” –Dalai Lama

-Deborah Adler

*from FOLLOW THE QUESTION INWARD ©1994 Pa’Ris’Ha © Copyright 2007 Parisha Online. All Rights Reserved.

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All quotes remain the sole property of the original authors.)

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