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Deb Adler’s”Know Change Know Gain – a pathway to better choices” is Now Available!

1 Aug

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Introduction

Note: This Ebook is currently available in PDF format only.  More to come!

 

This book was written as an accumulation of experiences and information that continues to help me along my own personal growth evolution.  That’s right; our personal, professional, emotional and spiritual growth is ongoing. You’ve heard it before – it’s not about the destination – because every day we wake up alive, the “finish line” has been moved! It’s all about the JOURNEY.

How we perceive our environment and our lives determines whether that journey is drudgery or a joyful dance. It doesn’t matter what life challenges us with – what determines our success, our happiness, is how do we respond?

There are those who believe that change has to be hard and painful. Guess what? You’ve just defined your experience. The more you reinforce that as your truth, the more you “cement” that truth as yours. The obvious play on words here is that too often quoted belief, “no pain no gain.” Did you know that there’s evidence that the subconscious mind fails to register “negatives” (i.e. “no”). That’s why I structured the title “Know Change, Know Gain.”

Will reading this book change your life forever? Maybe. That’s always a possibility. But what if there was just one kernel of something that made a difference in how you view yourself, others, your environment, and how you can influence that to be more like what you want it to look like? Just one little morsel that you never considered before? Would it be worth it?

Here’s what I know: we are all here as a unique part of a beautiful mosaic called “Life.” Each of us is vital to the whole. My desire in sharing this book is to help one other person find ways to remove or release the obstacles they may have created or inherited from others. If we’re on the journey, we’re works in progress!

Having the life you want was never a matter of “deserving” – you exist, therefore, you deserve All Good Things – it’s a matter of how much do you want it?

 

 

©2018 Deborah Adler and Silverstream Global LLC. All rights reserved. (NOTE: ALL quotes and/or materials from other authors or sources remain the sole property of the original authors/source.)

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Don’t Miss This Outstanding Opportunity!

4 Mar

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This FREE call is for you if you’re on a spiritual journey and you want to:

• Experience unlimited abundance – but as you keep trying, and failing, to do so, your confidence continues to plummet
• Rediscover your inner passion – and ignite it so you can tirelessly pursue the life you truly want and deserve (because right now, you feel like you’re just wandering – or spinning your wheels)
• Develop your personal power so you can define and achieve exactly what you want in life, so you can move forward with purpose and passion
• Feel empowered and powerful – rather than listless and hopeless – as you transcend your current levels of prosperity and spiritual fulfillment

FREE Training Call on Tuesday, March 5th at 1pm Arizona MT or 6pm Arizona MT.

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Sometimes, no matter how hard you work, achieving the wealth and abundance you SO want and deserve can be difficult – not to mention frustrating.

With all the dire news circulating about today’s economy, wealth and abundance may seem like far off dreams. And if you’ve taken that news to heart, any attempts you’ve made to attract wealth probably haven’t worked, have they?

As a result, your confidence has dissolved. And you know that’s not good for attracting abundance.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way.

With the right tools and skills – and confidence – you can FINALLY attract the wealth you really want.

I’m Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, and I’m dedicated to ending world poverty. As an educator – I taught Quantum Physics for 50 years before it became popular – I am a business coach and mentor. I’ve taught thousands of entrepreneurs how to utilize business technology. I’m globally acknowledged as Peacekeeper and Wisdom Path Teacher, and I’ve spent years teaching pathways to human development, health, wealth and happiness.

I specialize in attracting wealth and abundance, and that’s exactly what I’m going to share during this complimentary training call, “3 Secrets to Attracting Unlimited Wealth.”

Join me and learn:

• What “wealth” really is, and how to get it going
• The future of politics and economics, and what you can do about it
• How to overcome low self-confidence and increase your self-esteem when it comes to attracting wealth
• Proven skills you can hone, starting NOW, to begin attracting the wealth and abundance you deserve
• And more.

If you’ve ever joined me for a class or talk, you know I always provide information you can use immediately to improve the quality of your life. I hope you’ll join me!

FREE Training Call on Tuesday, March 5th at 1pm Arizona MT or 6pm Arizona MT.

http://demystifyingwealth.com/free-webinar

Pa’Ris’Ha has taught Quantum Physics for fifty years, long before it became accepted and popular. She educates about how the brain functions and how to reprogram our thinking through scientifically proven neurophysiologic principles. She is a powerful business Coach and Mentor and she has taught thousands business technology, and has established hundreds of successful companies who today enjoy health, wealth and happiness. She is a master in organization and flow, time effectiveness and higher profit levels. She says, “Organization is Realization”™ She is dedicated and serves to end world poverty.

Ka’lu Rinpoche of Tibet, and Rinpoche T’Sering Wang’di of Bhutan have declared Pa’Ris’Ha a reincarnation of Buddha TARA. A Spiritual Archeologist she has Cherokee Native American and European ancestry. She is known as an Elder and traditionally addressed as “Grandmother” a term of endearment and recognition of valor’s earned. She is globally acknowledged as Peacekeeper, and Wisdom Path Teacher. She is fun, caring, and delightful, you will be filled with insight and information that you have wanted for a very long time.

Pa’Ris’Ha has been a guest speaker on numerous global TV and Radio appearances and has introduced pathways in Human Development, Health, Wealth and Happiness for over fifty years. She founded humanitarian organizations to relieve suffering of all sentient Beings.

“To be in the presence of Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha is to be in the face of universal love and the power of that. She speaks with the impact of thunder and lightening, the elements responds to her as an authority, her power is genuine love in its purest form. All of nature responds to her love, as she often speaks of herself as a child of the forest. And she openly shows her love of humanity. Truly a Bodhisattva.” Ka’Lu Tibetan Rinpoche.

Persistency Pays Off

27 Mar

“I am a woman in process. I’m just trying like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience, & learn from it.” –Oprah Winfrey

Persistency has been a challenge for me in life.

“Inch-by-inch is a cinch

Yard-by-yard is hard.”

That’s a saying often used in network marketing circles, but it applies to life in general.

As one who often tries to “push the river” I’ve had to embrace a simple but effective means of selling…the “sort.”

Sorting through prospects de-personalizes the “no’s” and helps you get to the “yes’s” faster and with less high drama.

Consistent Effort Yields Consistent Results.

Just this past week I’ve experienced two prime examples of a subtle consistent effort of sharing information with prospects over time resulting in them coming to me with a sense of urgency and saying, “I’m ready to take a real look at this.”

Key factor, “I’m ready.”

When someone is receptive, they’re going to accept the information. When they are resistant, they are going to remain closed off to it – no matter how obvious it might be that they are in need or could benefit from your service or product.

“Surrender” comes to mind. I put in the effort and turn over the outcome to something or someone beyond my immediate desire to manipulate circumstances to my advantage. Because it’s not about just me – it’s about a larger picture that involves the “Greatest Good for All.”

There’s also the fact that good sales entails being a good listener. Find the need and fulfill it – don’t cram what you need down someone else’s throat.

A person’s own timing can be a key element to acceptance. If they feel pressured they walk away. It’s instinctive to protect one’s self. If the door is left open and the atmosphere remains friendly without any sense of obligation or pressure, they are more likely to stay close. Staying close they will continue to be exposed to new information. Eventually they will either “buy” or not – sorting themselves in or out of the picture.

That can require some patience. It also requires losing a sense of desperation. People sense that a mile away – and they run. If you stay interested in the other person’s needs, they’ll keep talking.

I’m getting better at that. This week, I got to see the fruits of  quiet persistency – and non-desperation.

Detachment is very helpful in sales, as in life. There is no one person or occurance upon which the success of my business or my life hangs on. Whatever transpires is all good.

Do the “inch-by-inch” and determine your destination, but let go of the results and be flexible when the course takes an unanticipated turn – because it’s in those moments where God-Creator-The Universe takes over and delivers an even greater outcome than we could have ever imagined!

“All around you no matter where you are is opportunity. You decide its potential and outcome. You are the co-creators. Make a life worthy of all the gifts we are. Love from a place empty of fear. Live in eternal celebration of being chosen for this world and life, and if we manage well, we will dwell in its glory and beauty again.” -Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha

 


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©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: ALL quotes and/or materials from other authors or sources remain the sole property of the original authors/source.)

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The Value of A Reflection

6 Mar

“There is a lesson in almost everything that you do, and getting the lesson is how you move forward. It is how you enrich your spirit.”-Oprah Winfrey

I have learned the importance of seeking a “reflection” over the years in my association with Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha.  A “Reflection” – just as the word implies – is a starkly objective feeding back of what you give to it. It does not judge, it does not seek to improve upon or make better or compensate for, but like the mirror – which holds no opinions of what it sees – it merely “reflects” back.

A great coach is an accomplished Reflector.

I taught swimming for ten years through the Red Cross Water Safety programs at Girl Scout summer resident camps in Michigan and Ohio. This was long before the age of camera phones, digital movies, etc. We had to use words to communicate to our swimmers – to help them understand the difference between what they were doing and the proper execution of a swimming stroke.

One tool that I developed that became tremendously successful was the ability to mimic the student’s movements. So I became a sort of live human “video-cam” to “playback” their execution in the water while they watched from my vantage point on the deck.

One thing it allowed was for them to laugh at themselves when they saw the sometimes large gap between what they thought they were doing and their actual movements. I would show them what they were doing and then show them the correct stroke.

It turned out to be a very successful teaching tool.

Whenever I had to correct a student’s stroke – I gave them something they were doing right. I found something they were executing correctly and reinforced that. But I didn’t lie to them. I didn’t try to look past or minimize what they were doing wrong. I showed them what needed adjusting – in order to perfect their technique and execute the stroke properly.

A good swimming teacher has two objectives in mind. Some students will want to compete. So they’re interested in speed and efficiency. But ALL students need to be drown-proof. A good swimming teacher will give their students tools that will help them maximize their energy in a survival situation, and keep them from exhausting themselves in practice or recreational swimming.

The fact is swimming strokes have been modified and stream-lined over the years to require less energy and maximize a swimmer’s power working together with the resistance factor of the water. When executed correctly, a swimmer can utilize the resistance of the water to propel themselves forward, maximizing and even conserving energy.

When executed sloppily or incorrectly, the swimmer can actually find him/herself working against natural forces and will exhaust themselves in the effort.

My goal was always to help my swimmers achieve their best performance – whether for competition or just plain efficiency. I helped them there by holding no judgment of what I saw, reflecting their performance back to them and helping them to make the necessary and appropriate corrections to bring them up to optimum performance.

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha has been the ultimate coach in my life. She holds no judgment, reflects without distortion and stays steadfast in her commitment to helping others achieve excellence. I haven’t always been the best student, but I’m no quitter. So long as I don’t give up on myself, Coach Pa’Ris’Ha is there.

I have been very blessed to have someone in my life who cared enough about me to help me be my best. Too often we surround ourselves with people who are afraid to offend us, who are afraid to deliver the truth. But then that simply enables us in our weaknesses. It really doesn’t serve personal development, in fact it stunts it. Personal growth requires stretching beyond our comfort zones – being willing and able to take direct feedback without injury and change.

If I run from the truth, I live in a world of denial. The fact is that that existence creates a far greater pain than facing the truth and acting upon it. With the support of a skilled and compassionate but firm coach, learning from a “Reflection” can become a life of discovery and unfoldment.

It’s always a choice.

“All around you no matter where you are is opportunity. You decide its potential and outcome. You are the co-creators. Make a life worthy of all the gifts we are. Love from a place empty of fear. Live in eternal celebration of being chosen for this world and life, and if we manage well, we will dwell in its glory and beauty again.” –Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor*

* from Grandmother’s Legacy. © Copyright 2007 Parisha Online. All Rights Reserved.

 

-Deborah Adler

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All quotes remain the sole property of the original authors.)

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Correction…

24 Feb

The title for yesterday’s post was “I am not my job.”   The points I covered are all good – BUT I broke one of the tenets that I have learned from experience as well as my work with my spiritual mentor and Elder, as well as business coach, Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor.

Simply stated: the brain has an interesting way of processing negative words. It seems they become invisible. So when we formulate affirmations with the word “not” or “won’t” or similar declarations, the brain goes right past that negative word and processes what follows.

So “I am not my job” gets processed by the brain as “I am my job.”

As I have learned from Pa’Ris’Ha, when we make a “mis-take” we can “re-take” and make the necessary correction towards a better result.

What I really mean to focus on and use as a mantra is:

“I am more than my job.”

To me, this phrasing accomplishes defining my worth as going way beyond just what I do. I won’t repeat the whole discussion from the previous blog; you can just read it here:

https://debadler.wordpress.com/2011/02/23/i-am-not-my-job/

Suffice it to say that when we’re forming AFFIRMATIONS, we want to AFFIRM. So avoid the negatives and stick with the positives. Find a way to phrase your affirmation that helps you reach toward something rather than away from it.

I got a very powerful lesson in that principle a few years back. I was facing pairing up with someone for a rooming assignment with whom I definitely had issues. My mental focus was so much on what I didn’t want to have happen that it became a mental obsession.

We know that what we choose to make our focus will become what we experience. You guessed it, when the time came for the assignments, I got paired up with the person I had spent way too much time thinking about not wanting to be with. LOL!

Of course, it became an opportunity to grow, to look past my own prejudices and history with this person and create a positive experience. We had some rough moments, but overall we both came out better for the experience.  🙂

“I have found we make real what we believe and our mind set determines our lifestyle and level of happiness.” *Pa’Ris’Ha

Appreciation is another way to accomplish looking beyond what we might commonly think of as the “drudgery” of a job. EVERY circumstance presents opportunities for us to be of service, care, excel, and “take the high road.”  So when I start out with naming the things that I can feel good about in my job – or anything – whether or not they are acknowledged by anyone else, I build a foundation that allows the statement, “I am more than my job” to take me even further in self worth. I acknowledge my accomplishments and remind myself that WHO I AM goes way beyond what I do! -Deborah Adler

Each of us was given the joy of life.  Appreciate it, all of it, and if you want more health and wealth in yours, appreciate what you have and focus on it joyfully. Live without fear of scarcity.” **Pa’Ris’Ha

“What I know for sure is that what you give comes back to you.” –Oprah Winfrey


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Stepping into a Higher Plane

12 Jan

“The possibility of stepping into a higher plane is quite real for everyone. It requires no force or effort or sacrifice. It involves little more than changing our ideas about what is normal.”
— Deepak Chopra

We have two basic choices in life. To live in appreciation, or To live in condemnation.

To live in appreciation of all that we have and all that comes to us – without judging it as “good” or “bad” – we acknowledge the gift and increase its value. That’s what “appreciation” means – “to increase the value of.”  To live in this mind-set is to allow for our transformation to a higher existence.

To live in condemnation is to live as a victim. It is to see everything as “not enough” or a negative outcome. It is to see only suffering and lack and squalor. Life becomes a burden to be endured, a prison sentence. To live in this manner is to condemn ourselves to a lifetime of unhappiness, anger and resentment which can eat us up like a cancer and may even manifest itself as some form of debilitating disease.

It is our thought process that determines where we dwell. This is not to deny that life has its challenges. Life is composed of miraculous events and horrific mishaps, and all degrees of happenings in between.

If we expect challenges to be “normal” then we take them in stride. Champions use them to strengthen determination. Quantum Physics tells us that without Resistance, there can be no Creation. So when we see Resistance as “normal” we realize that we are in the process of Creation, that our goals or intentions are being birthed with a little help from the natural laws of the Universe!

There are times when I find myself in a dark place in my mind, but just as quickly as I recognize it I can choose to move out of it. I can choose to dwell in the realm of infinite possibilities rather than stay stuck in limitation. Always, it is mine to determine.

I have found we make real what we believe and our mind set determines our lifestyle and level of happiness. – Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

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Reflections on the day after Christmas

26 Dec

Back to work this morning, and the natural question that came across the counter – both ways – was “How was your Christmas?”

Most people smiled and had positive comments. What I found remarkable were the two women – regulars – who came in at different times and each launched into quite a long diatribe about how they really hated Christmas and how hard this one was because of all the presents they had; all the waves of people coming at different times and the resultant cleanup.

“Wow,” I thought. “Really?”

I just sort of got busy getting their order ready. I listened but I didn’t give them any validation. I shared about going to a Seniors’ Home and singing.

When you’re working a register at a restaurant counter you have to maintain a delicate balance of what you can say to people because they’re “regulars” and you get to know them better, and restrictions that fall under the “the customer is always right” clause.

Some days I feel more like a confessional, which I suppose is good from the standpoint that it shows a degree of trust. But then I’ve had total strangers open up and tell me their entire life story at a bus stop. Plus a lot of people seem to think I’m a Nun – so who knows?

But what I really wanted to ask those two ladies was “Did you know that there were kids writing to the Macy’s Santa this year asking for food, and clothes – or jobs for their parents – and you’re complaining because you had so much to clean-up from too many gifts?”

But I just bagged up their food, smiled and wished them a good day.

This evening I was reading a blog post from one of my associates with the Learning Center for Human Development, Lois. She shared about the joys of cleaning up after the Christmas chaos, about the good feeling of bringing things back into order. Loved it! See: AppreciatingLife: Clean Up

I remember many Christmas mornings at my Aunt Grace’s house in Easton, PA. Their little dog, Sally, had a ball tearing through the wrapping paper all over the floor, and we all just sat around after the last present was opened watching this little bundle of fur have the time of her life tunneling under and racing all around the many colored balled up and crumpled sheets of paper. My Uncle Buster would add to her joy by burying her in the sheets just as she emerged up through them! Then when she had finally exhausted herself, we all pitched in to pick up the remnants and the kids went down to the basement to play at the pool table while the adults moved on to helping with the holiday dinner preparations.

Talk about waves of people coming through the door – we had twenty to thirty during the day, all walking through the door at various times throughout the day to recreate the original scene of opening presents and watching Sally go crazy all over again.

Creating our own experience is a practice that has been validated from philosophers, coaches, motivational speakers, successful business people, to Quantum Physicists.

It begins with deciding what we want and then utilizing visualization, journaling, and positive “self-speak” that reinforces the vision.

Like attracts Like. That’s another scientific Principle. What’s been discovered is that it applies to the relationship between how we think, feel and the type and quality of life we live.

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, my spiritual mentor and Elder has said, “The key to open your life is absolute appreciation for everything in your life.”

Oprah Winfrey has said “I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.”

Both women reinforce what science is now revealing to us in many ways has been reflected in the old, old adage: “When you look at glass containing water half way up – do you see a glass half empty or half full?”

As long as I look upon life with appreciation, as I have learned by observing Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, and open myself to receive by giving of myself, I will see/create a glass that is filling up and overflowing with blessings!

©2010 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

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