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Lessons from the Opposition

18 Mar

“For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” – Newton’s Third Law of Motion

This Law of Physics has a practical application in Life. I first heard it expressed by my spiritual mentor and Elder Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha many years ago when she shared how she measures the strength of her declaration to the Universe (i.e. goal, project, intention, etc.) by the strength and size of the opposition that comes back at it.

Most of us have been taught to retreat when we experience resistance. Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha welcomes it as a positive indicator!

According to noted author Fred Alan Wolf, PhD, “Resistance arises in each transformation. This is the transformational process itself.”

Athletes understand this principle. Any long distance runner will tell you about the cramps and the pain that starts up about three-quarters of the way through the race. Champions run through the pain. The Resistance.

That’s just one example.

When we experience opposition we can’t afford to shrink from it. We have to hold our ground and press on. That’s how we succeed – regardless of the goal.

When we speak up or take a stand on an issue or Principle, the opposition is likely to come back strong and heavy. The important thing to remember is to stay focused on our intent and allow that energy to be what fuels our moving ahead. We don’t shrink back or accept defeat.

“Every time you suppress some part of yourself or allow others to play you small, you are in essence ignoring the owner’s manual your Creator gave you and destroying your design.” Oprah Winfrey

We come from a culture of “make-wrong” therefore it’s almost instinctual for us to react to opposition as the “sign” that we are “wrong” or “bad” or worse. Actually, it means we’re “on target.” We need to become a culture of “make-right.”

Celebrate the opposition because it means you’re on track to your target. Don’t let others sway you. And don’t let the “bullies” become the wall you can’t break through – whether physically or in your mind. That “committee of voices” can be pretty formidable at times. Use it.

-Deborah Adler

“If your outcome is not achieved this time you’ll get it next one, or next one… Persist. As soon as you have no doubt it is yours. Now is the time to focus more and push through.” Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha

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©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: ALL quotes and/or materials from other authors or sources remain the sole property of the original authors/source.)

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“It Gets Better” (Broadway sings for the Trevor Project)

20 Oct

AWESOME Video put together for The Trevor Project and the It Gets Better Project. Thanks to all who made this video possible – you are amazing. Nuff said!


Please help share this video with as many people as you can! Help get this beautiful and powerful message out to our LGBTQ Youth!  -Deb Adler

©2010 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

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Stand Up To Youth Suicide

12 Oct

This is re-published from YouTube channel SeanChapin1 | October 10, 2010

“Video montage of the “Stand Up To Youth Suicide” rally and candle light march in San Francisco on October 8, 2010, organized by Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons. Featuring speakers from The Trevor Project, GSA Network, Soulforce and more (including myself singing my original song “It Gets Better” as an homage to Dan Savage’s project).

“If you are an LGBT student and in need of help, the following organizations and projects are here to support you (if I am missing any, please contact me):”

It Gets Better Project – http://www.itgetsbetterproject.com

Make It Better Project – http://www.makeitbetterproject.org

The Trevor Project – http://www.thetrevorproject.org

GSA Network – http://www.gsanetwork.org

GLSEN – http://www.glsen.org

Soulforce – http://www.soulforce.org

COLAGE – http://www.colage.org

The Safe Schools Coalition – http://www.safeschoolscoalition.org/

Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons – http://www.affirmation.org/

Video: Sean Chapin


The following teens committed suicide during the month of September due to bullying:

Billy Lucas (15) September 9, 2010. Indiana

Cody J. Barker (17) September 13, 2010. Wisconsin

Seth Walsh (13) September 19, 2010. California

Tyler Clementi (18) September 22, 2010. New Jersey

Asher Brown (13) September 23, 2010. Texas

Harrison Chase Brown (15) September, 25 2010. Colorado

Raymond Chase (19) September 29, 2010. Rhode Island

Felix Sacco (17) September 29, 2010. Massachusetts

Caleb Nolt (14) September 30, 2010. Indiana

It’s time for us to come together now in a united front to support safe schools and provide a loving and nurturing environment for ALL youth.  These tragic deaths must end now.  -Deb Adler


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