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Love is Louder: Transforming Humankind

2 Dec

It would seem that we as a Human Family are on the brink of an epiphany: That we are really One, that caring is more powerful than hurting, and that the smallest act of kindness can make a difference not only in a person’s life, but indeed the entire fabric of Humankind.

After a rash of youth suicides attributed to bullying over the past few months, there has been an outpouring of support and encouragement from nonprofit organizations, religious and humanitarian groups, and most notably thousands of personal messages through the “It Gets Better Project” from LGBTQ and straight people alike assuring those who might be in a challenging time of their life that a better experience awaits them.

Now, there is a wonderful project that just showed up on Facebook on Dec 1st called “7 Days of Love is Louder.”

To summarize, this is a simple outline for 7 days of expressing appreciation and gratitude and taking action of being good to ourselves and reaching out to others.

Grandmother Parisha, my spiritual mentor and Elder, is constantly reinforcing to those of us who have studied and worked with her that pain and hardship is a choice we make through how we view our experiences and create our “self-talk.”

By focusing on gratitude, we feed our faith and our strength to handle whatever might come our way. There are no stumbling blocks, there are only stepping stones.

To some that may seem simplistic, yet I come from a background of addiction recovery, where “Keeping it Simple” can be a real survival skill in life. It can make the difference between success and failure especially during the initial stage of getting free and clear of toxicants – where the “rubber meets the road.”

People guiding my early days of recovery told me to make a gratitude list. For every pain or fear or negative thought I could come up with – I had to find the “gift” in it. It wasn’t easy at first, but after a while I got the hang of it. Today it has become second nature – when I choose to exercise that simple wisdom.

Grandmother Parisha, along with other great mentors, teaches that, We Are What We Think. We Create our Experience – Our Reality, if you will. Some look at the world today and see “the brink of destruction.” Others form service organizations or special relief missions or campaigns; millionaires Bill Gates and Warren Buffett created the “Giving Pledge” to encourage philanthropy; average citizens, celebrities and political leaders worldwide have joined in to let our youth know “It Gets Better” in an outpouring of love and encouragement that brings tears to my eyes every time I view one of the thousands of powerful messages!

There are tremendous Expressions and Acts of Love and Caring happening every day all over the world. It’s growing exponentially!

Another Principle that Grandmother Parisha has shared over the years is the power of Critical Mass.  MSN Encarta Dictionary defines “critical mass” as the “point of change: a point or situation at which change occurs.”  (http://encarta.msn.com/dictionary_1861688572/critical_mass.html)

Typically the example of achieving Critical Mass is that one-by-one-by-one individuals can effect change. When enough individuals join together in a common action or thought, change occurs. Here’s the good news: “Critical Mass” by scientific definition is achieved at 51%. That’s the point where the “scale tips” in the other direction.

We’re gaining momentum and moving toward a Human Evolution (or Revolution, if you will!). Grandmother Parisha is quoted as saying, “The world will not end. It will be transformed.” We are being transformed by the actions we are taking today.

So get on board! Take part in “7 Days of Love is Louder” – share it with your friends, family and co-workers. Share it with strangers!

We are making a difference for Humankind today. Join the movement!

Amplify.

Reach Out.

Appreciate.

Give.

Love.

Speak Up.

Celebrate.

 

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Pass It On: Until Every Woman Knows

19 Nov

Support Breast Cancer Awareness!

 

“It Gets Better” (Broadway sings for the Trevor Project)

20 Oct

AWESOME Video put together for The Trevor Project and the It Gets Better Project. Thanks to all who made this video possible – you are amazing. Nuff said!

 

Please help share this video with as many people as you can! Help get this beautiful and powerful message out to our LGBTQ Youth!  -Deb Adler

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Wear Purple on October 20 for Spirit Day

20 Oct

GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) has launched a “Wear Purple on October 20 for Spirit Day” Campaign on Facebook, Twitter and through its website:

http://www.glaad.org/spiritday

to ask people to honor the recent LGBTQ teens who committed suicide and to End Anti-Gay Bullying.

Here are some of the suggested additional activities:

“ On Wednesday, post this tweet: I’m wearing purple to end anti-LGBT bullying – make your profile pic purple today #SpiritDay http://glaad.org/spiritday

“On Wednesday, post this Facebook status: I’m wearing purple today to support LGBT youth – make your profile pic purple today for Spirit Day at http://glaad.org/spiritday

Please visit http://www.glaad.org/spiritday and support providing safe schools free from bullying for LGBTQ and all Youth!

Thanks! -Deb Adler

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Stand Up To Youth Suicide

12 Oct

This is re-published from YouTube channel SeanChapin1 | October 10, 2010

“Video montage of the “Stand Up To Youth Suicide” rally and candle light march in San Francisco on October 8, 2010, organized by Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons. Featuring speakers from The Trevor Project, GSA Network, Soulforce and more (including myself singing my original song “It Gets Better” as an homage to Dan Savage’s project).

“If you are an LGBT student and in need of help, the following organizations and projects are here to support you (if I am missing any, please contact me):”

It Gets Better Project – http://www.itgetsbetterproject.com

Make It Better Project – http://www.makeitbetterproject.org

The Trevor Project – http://www.thetrevorproject.org

GSA Network – http://www.gsanetwork.org

GLSEN – http://www.glsen.org

Soulforce – http://www.soulforce.org

COLAGE – http://www.colage.org

The Safe Schools Coalition – http://www.safeschoolscoalition.org/

Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons – http://www.affirmation.org/

Video: Sean Chapin

 

The following teens committed suicide during the month of September due to bullying:

Billy Lucas (15) September 9, 2010. Indiana

Cody J. Barker (17) September 13, 2010. Wisconsin

Seth Walsh (13) September 19, 2010. California

Tyler Clementi (18) September 22, 2010. New Jersey

Asher Brown (13) September 23, 2010. Texas

Harrison Chase Brown (15) September, 25 2010. Colorado

Raymond Chase (19) September 29, 2010. Rhode Island

Felix Sacco (17) September 29, 2010. Massachusetts

Caleb Nolt (14) September 30, 2010. Indiana

It’s time for us to come together now in a united front to support safe schools and provide a loving and nurturing environment for ALL youth.  These tragic deaths must end now.  -Deb Adler

©2010 Deborah Adler. (ORIGINAL CONTENT FROM SEAN CHAPIN REMAINS THE SOLE PROPERTY OF SEAN CHAPIN.}

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Home for The Holidays

17 Dec

December is a time when people traditionally travel “home” – or at least think about it – because a number of major religions have significant holidays during this month.

Christians rule with “Christmas” of course, which now gets its commercial launch pre-Halloween. But then, practically speaking, 33% of the world’s population and 82% of the United States population is considered “Christian” (includes: Protestant, Catholic, Mormon, Orthodox, and other, as well as non-denominational), so the country tends to revolve around Christmas as the major holiday with Hanukkah, Kwanza, Eid-ul-Fitr and Winter Solstice trailing behind.

Actually, I suspect that all of these celebrations have their roots in the Winter Solstice, which marks the moment in time when, according to the wisdom of my Grandmother’s people, The Principle People (T’saligi),  the Earth Mother “takes a breath” – and in that moment, sends out a tone that signals to all the vegetation of the planet a “wake up call” that begins the process of growth of shoots reaching towards the surface that will erupt in “the resurrection” of growth in the Spring.

Be that as it may, this is undoubtedly a time when families get together and attempt to function in good cheer. Of course normally “dysfunctional” families – and who’s isn’t these days in some way, shape or form – have a greater challenge. It’s a rare and blessed family that can honestly enjoy each other and embrace each member with acceptance and appreciation. It takes some practice, but it is definitely achievable.

“Holidays” also tend to be the time when family members choose to make significant announcements to the rest of the clan – like, “I’m getting married” ,”I’m getting a divorce” or “I’m Gay.”

If you have had any experience with the “I’m Gay” announcement – either as the announcer or the recipient, then I recommend the following post and resources from one of my other blogs, “MsQueer.”  (Well, yes, since I wrote it I would be a tad favorably prejudiced towards it… 🙂  )

It’s an Open Letter to Parents of Gay Teens, but it applies to all ages, and I’ve had positive feedback from both sides of the issue. Hope you enjoy.

See: http://msqueer.wordpress.com/2008/12/16/for-parents-of-gay-teens/

Holiday Greeting 3

-Deborah Adler

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