Tag Archives: Matthew Principle

Seeking a Reflection

6 Feb

Yesterday, when I needed to work through the Ideal Scene of what outcome I wanted from a business meeting, I called one whom I have come to know as my Sister, one of my beloved associates from the Learning Center for Human Development and fellow staff at Friendship village retreat and Conference Center.

We have shared, among other experiences over the years, the gift of working with and learning from our Elder, Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha.

Grandmother has often spoken of the power of the Matthew Principle – taken from Matthew 18:20 in the New Testament, “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” English Standard Version (©2001)

The power of the Matthew Principle is that the proverbial sum result of coming together as two or more is greater than the parts comprising it. That “something extra” is God, Creator, The Source, Universal Intelligence – whatever you choose to call it, it’s that intangible but most noticeably present additional element.

What I appreciate about invoking the Matthew Principle is that is keeps me from running around crazy in the cavernous rooms of my mind, where I can easily get lost! With a reflection, I stand a better chance of staying in focus and on point.

I had five minutes to achieve that task, and we did it! It was a given that we would.

“Ask for nothing less than inspiration.” — Deepak Chopra

I am ever so grateful that I can reach out to my extended family and practice the basics that were given to us all to succeed in our endeavors and to grow. I am very blessed. -Deborah Adler/Great Doe

“So then we may ask, how do we know then when it is pure and safe and right? Ahhn…….that’s the clue, when do we ‘know!’ We can trust it if it is clear and not emotional. Clear in as much as it is well thought out and has no hooks on the end of it. We can trust it when no ones name is spoken as the fault, or no circumstances are given as justification. When no denial tactics are involved we are closer to right-relationship.” –Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, from Wind Whispers


©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All quotes remain the sole property of the original authors.)

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Prisoner of the Past or Pioneer of the Future

11 Jan

“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future”
— Deepak Chopra

I had a wonderful in-depth conversation tonight with a young woman who is new in sobriety – again. Addiction – no matter the drug of choice – is about being a prisoner of the past. Some people think it should be just a matter of will power, generally the ones who have never been addicted to anything – at least not anything lethal or socially unacceptable.

Addiction is about patterns. It’s about neuro-pathways in the brain that have become “hardwired” to respond in a certain predictable way unless something comes along to break the sequence in the brain and create new neuro-nets, or pathways, of altered behavior.

The drug of choice is merely the endpoint – it’s what the addict resorts to once the determination has been made by the brain that it needs its “fix.” In order to disobey the powerful command coming from the brain center it takes a concentrated effort. It takes determination and, in my experience, it takes activating the “Matthew Principle” as taught in the Bible. Simply put, the Matthew Principle is about having a reflection. “Wherever two or more are gathered in my name, there I am.” This is one of the foundations of recovery programs that stress fellowship as well as working in Partnership with a God of your understanding.

But the real work still lies with the individual. Fellow recovering addicts can be a support system, but each of us has to make the transition inside our own thought space: stopping destructive thoughts that lead to self-destructive behaviors and replacing those with healthier, more nourishing and nurturing choices creating new patterns of behavior that support recovery and living sober, happy and free.

We can be addicted to our misery. We can be addicted to failure, or anger, or playing the victim. All addiction has a chemical basis in the brain. Findings published by leading researchers of the relationship between the bio-chemistry of the brain and human behavior, such as Dr. Candace Pert and Joe Dispenza, D.C., have demonstrated that we, as the keepers of our Mind-Body Altar have the capability to re-direct those chemical processes by changing our thoughts and behaviors.

“It is always what is inside that determines what we experience in each situation. We are human and this is the way we evolve and mature.” – Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

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